I often times find it hard to remain motivated… When it comes to my homework, diet, and excercise, sometimes I just lack the motivation. I will find myself spendig hours (literally) on pinterest, facebook, and instagram just to avoid what I should be doing. But why do I do this, and how can I avoid it? (more…)
Finding Meaning and Purpose
If you feel stuck in your life, or confused, because you don’t have a clear direction and have no way of finding that direction … shift your focus from yourself.
Instead of thinking, “What should I be doing?” or “What could I do to give my life purpose?” … try asking:
What could I do to help people in need? What pain are other people feeling that I could help with? Who do I care most about, and what problems do they have? Who are my current customers, and what can I do to help them more? What problems are out there that strangers might have, that my particular skillset could solve?
When you start asking these kinds of questions, your focus shifts from your confusion and problems, to the confusion and problems of others. And when you start solving them, you have purpose. It’s gratifying to help others. It fills you with a sense of meaning and appreciation.
It sounds too easy, but it works 100% of the time. I will give you your money back if it doesn’t.
Getting Pumped with Psychitude
We might move through the day as if in a fog of blueness, slogging through mud, in a slump, feeling no motivation to do anything useful. This is a problem I imagine people of yore didn’t deal with as much. I’m not sure what in our modern condition causes this lack of motivation, but when I figure it out, I will write a poem about it for you.
But the cure is simple and pure and lovely: help others.
Can’t get off your butt to do something useful to your career and life in general? OK. So forget about your life, your career, your little set of problems. That’s a self-focus that doesn’t do anything for you.
Instead, move your focus to others. What pain are other people feeling? Can you help in some small way? Can you ease their suffering just a little? Can you put a smile on someone’s face? Can you change someone’s life?
When you change someone’s life for the better, even just a little, you feel amazing.
This shift in focus … it rocks your world. It sends tremors of psychitude throughout your body and mindbrain. It’s quite nice.